Comments for Personal & Professional NLP Life Coaching, Training and Workshops http://gregbeckham.com Live life on your terms - Achieve your dreams Mon, 10 May 2010 01:25:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Do you really want it? by Opal http://gregbeckham.com/personalgrowth/doyoureallywantit/comment-page-1/#comment-68 Opal Mon, 10 May 2010 01:25:21 +0000 http://gregbeckham.net/?p=306#comment-68 Thank you for your talk in the airplane today. I hope you are having a great day with your girlfriend. Thank you for your talk in the airplane today. I hope you are having a great day with your girlfriend.

]]> Comment on That nagging feeling… by Greg Beckham http://gregbeckham.com/personalgrowth/thatnaggingfeeling/comment-page-1/#comment-67 Greg Beckham Thu, 31 Dec 2009 18:04:48 +0000 http://gregbeckham.net/?p=358#comment-67 Thank you Dr Lloyd, I'm glad to see you have stoped by! Thank you Dr Lloyd, I’m glad to see you have stoped by!

]]> Comment on What is taking up your airwaves? by Greg Beckham http://gregbeckham.com/personalgrowth/whatistakingupyourairwaves/comment-page-1/#comment-66 Greg Beckham Mon, 28 Dec 2009 02:05:00 +0000 http://gregbeckham.net/?p=348#comment-66 Hi Karen! Thanks for your comment - I'm so glad to see you here. It really is important to be a censor for your airwaves, the only way to change it is to change the programming! Hi Karen! Thanks for your comment – I’m so glad to see you here. It really is important to be a censor for your airwaves, the only way to change it is to change the programming!

]]> Comment on What is taking up your airwaves? by Karen Walker-Tunoa http://gregbeckham.com/personalgrowth/whatistakingupyourairwaves/comment-page-1/#comment-65 Karen Walker-Tunoa Sun, 27 Dec 2009 22:09:54 +0000 http://gregbeckham.net/?p=348#comment-65 Greg, what a fantastic reminder! As you said, "...when we run old thought patterns through our minds, they take up space and attention!" Imagine, if not careful, how this pattern contributes to undue stress and impedes performance - an example of how people get stuck and become immobile. Your observation is very insightful. Greg, what a fantastic reminder! As you said, “…when we run old thought patterns through our minds, they take up space and attention!” Imagine, if not careful, how this pattern contributes to undue stress and impedes performance – an example of how people get stuck and become immobile. Your observation is very insightful.

]]> Comment on That nagging feeling… by Todd Lloyd, DC http://gregbeckham.com/personalgrowth/thatnaggingfeeling/comment-page-1/#comment-64 Todd Lloyd, DC Wed, 16 Dec 2009 22:01:00 +0000 http://gregbeckham.net/?p=358#comment-64 Greg, I just wanted to drop by and say that you are a very inspiring person, and I'm lucky to be able to hear you speak on a regular basis. Nice job with what you are doing here. Greg, I just wanted to drop by and say that you are a very inspiring person, and I’m lucky to be able to hear you speak on a regular basis. Nice job with what you are doing here.

]]> Comment on New Beginnings With Old States Of Mind by Moira Nobles http://gregbeckham.com/personalgrowth/newbeginningswitholdstatesofmind/comment-page-1/#comment-62 Moira Nobles Wed, 11 Nov 2009 20:46:09 +0000 http://gregbeckham.net/?p=164#comment-62 Hi Greg, New beginnings - yes, I know what those are. I ended a 37 year marriage in June, moved to Petaluma, and moved to a new office in my company in the last three months all without knowing anyone else here. I kept our breakup friendly and without drama with a very stong intention that that is the way it would happen but also have feelings of grief for the ending of 37 years of devotion to another person. I still love him as a friend and always will. Being a single woman after so many years has been a fascinating learning experience. My whole journey this summer after the initial breakup has been one of revelation and discovery. It is interesting that you use the word surrender because at one time it was one that I really had a hard time dealing with. I had the difficulty until I realized that surrender really means acceptance at least for me - acceptance of whatever may come to me with faith and trust. The reality for me is that i am meant to life of joy and abundance and only have to get out of my own way to let it happen! I believe that this is true for everyone. Hi Greg,

New beginnings – yes, I know what those are. I ended a 37 year marriage in June, moved to Petaluma, and moved to a new office in my company in the last three months all without knowing anyone else here. I kept our breakup friendly and without drama with a very stong intention that that is the way it would happen but also have feelings of grief for the ending of 37 years of devotion to another person. I still love him as a friend and always will. Being a single woman after so many years has been a fascinating learning experience. My whole journey this summer after the initial breakup has been one of revelation and discovery.

It is interesting that you use the word surrender because at one time it was one that I really had a hard time dealing with. I had the difficulty until I realized that surrender really means acceptance at least for me – acceptance of whatever may come to me with faith and trust. The reality for me is that i am meant to life of joy and abundance and only have to get out of my own way to let it happen! I believe that this is true for everyone.

]]> Comment on Once upon a time… by admin http://gregbeckham.com/lifemastery/onceuponatime/comment-page-1/#comment-61 admin Mon, 09 Nov 2009 06:20:45 +0000 http://gregbeckham.net/?p=227#comment-61 Thanks for your comments and questions! I am answering in a Q & A style to help with clarity: Q: So by not “believing” the story are you changing the truth of it or just how you are responding to it? A: This is a great question! Changing what you believe will change your response. I assume when you say the “truth” you are referring to the “objective truth”, That is to say the facts. Truth, beyond fact becomes judgment and is only relative to the individual. Both are stories. Both can be true but only judgments can be false. More on this later in the next blog… DON’T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU THINK! Q: If I have experienced a loss and I know it to be painful should I tell myself it wasn’t that bad of a loss so it isn’t as painful? A: You could do that, in fact the degree of more or less is just a judgment, it is not a fact. If you minimize your focus on something, your awareness of it will shift. Q: Shouldn’t I feel the emotion and move on from that? But not until I have felt it or I won’t know how to move on from it. A: Yes, you should feel it, and once experienced and ACCEPTED (believed). This process of “re-defining” belief would take place later as a way to change your history or perhaps if not so dramatic, redefine your experience of something. Again, I will write more on this in later. In summary, most of our beliefs will contain all sorts of unexamined assumptions and generalities that may not produce a desirable state. They can cause us to respond in ways that are not what we want. Thanks for your comments and questions! I am answering in a Q & A style to help with clarity:
Q: So by not “believing” the story are you changing the truth of it or just how you are responding to it?
A: This is a great question! Changing what you believe will change your response. I assume when you say the “truth” you are referring to the “objective truth”, That is to say the facts. Truth, beyond fact becomes judgment and is only relative to the individual. Both are stories. Both can be true but only judgments can be false. More on this later in the next blog… DON’T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU THINK!
Q: If I have experienced a loss and I know it to be painful should I tell myself it wasn’t that bad of a loss so it isn’t as painful?
A: You could do that, in fact the degree of more or less is just a judgment, it is not a fact. If you minimize your focus on something, your awareness of it will shift.
Q: Shouldn’t I feel the emotion and move on from that? But not until I have felt it or I won’t know how to move on from it.
A: Yes, you should feel it, and once experienced and ACCEPTED (believed). This process of “re-defining” belief would take place later as a way to change your history or perhaps if not so dramatic, redefine your experience of something. Again, I will write more on this in later.
In summary, most of our beliefs will contain all sorts of unexamined assumptions and generalities that may not produce a desirable state. They can cause us to respond in ways that are not what we want.

]]> Comment on Once upon a time… by Jenny Vandervort http://gregbeckham.com/lifemastery/onceuponatime/comment-page-1/#comment-59 Jenny Vandervort Sun, 08 Nov 2009 01:25:00 +0000 http://gregbeckham.net/?p=227#comment-59 So by not "believing" the story are you changing the truth of it or just how you are responding to it? If I have experienced a loss and I know it to be painful should I tell myself it wasn't that bad of a loss so it isn't as painful? Shouldn't I feel the emotion and move on from that?, but not until I have felt it or I won't know how to move on from it. So by not “believing” the story are you changing the truth of it or just how you are responding to it? If I have experienced a loss and I know it to be painful should I tell myself it wasn’t that bad of a loss so it isn’t as painful? Shouldn’t I feel the emotion and move on from that?, but not until I have felt it or I won’t know how to move on from it.

]]> Comment on I changed my mind and saved my life by admin http://gregbeckham.com/personalgrowth/ichangedmymindandsavedmylife/comment-page-1/#comment-58 admin Mon, 03 Aug 2009 02:56:10 +0000 http://gregbeckham.net/?p=100#comment-58 Karen - thanks for writing. Keep in mind that if the thought "I will stick to my diet" is realized, it will indeed be a life altering experience! So to address that part of your question, you WANT to have a life altering experience! This is a good thing. Whether or not you want to go through the mental and emotional stress to realize your goal is the real question, right? The answer begins with the word "presence". Through my life threatening experience in the hospital, I became <em>present & aware</em> of myself and my need to quit smoking - which is one of the most powerful components of change. Relative to your question, the first thing you must do is become consciously aware of your diet and incorporate it in your life as a regular thought pattern. In other words, you must believe that it exists within you and that it is a part of you and your daily behavior - much like what happened to me when I was in the hospital. I know that if you became "present" with yourself and what you know about your dietary habits, you would be able to incorporate improvement in your life. I will soon have a book available which will help address these situations. I will certainly be posting more articles on this topic in the near future, so please stay tuned! Karen – thanks for writing. Keep in mind that if the thought “I will stick to my diet” is realized, it will indeed be a life altering experience! So to address that part of your question, you WANT to have a life altering experience! This is a good thing. Whether or not you want to go through the mental and emotional stress to realize your goal is the real question, right?
The answer begins with the word “presence”.
Through my life threatening experience in the hospital, I became present & aware of myself and my need to quit smoking – which is one of the most powerful components of change. Relative to your question, the first thing you must do is become consciously aware of your diet and incorporate it in your life as a regular thought pattern. In other words, you must believe that it exists within you and that it is a part of you and your daily behavior – much like what happened to me when I was in the hospital.
I know that if you became “present” with yourself and what you know about your dietary habits, you would be able to incorporate improvement in your life. I will soon have a book available which will help address these situations. I will certainly be posting more articles on this topic in the near future, so please stay tuned!

]]> Comment on I changed my mind and saved my life by karen http://gregbeckham.com/personalgrowth/ichangedmymindandsavedmylife/comment-page-1/#comment-47 karen Wed, 29 Jul 2009 18:16:53 +0000 http://gregbeckham.net/?p=100#comment-47 so other than a life threatening experience how do you get it through your head you want to change? How do I go 100% into a new thought process (like 'I will stick to my diet') without having a life altering experience? so other than a life threatening experience how do you get it through your head you want to change? How do I go 100% into a new thought process (like ‘I will stick to my diet’) without having a life altering experience?

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